Why This Book? Why do I call it Letters to a J.E.R.K.?

Like every good story, it starts in the past. Sometimes you have to go through it to get past it. Well, I have waded through the shit and back more times than I can count. I bet you can relate to that!

I believe we experience pivotal moments in life that we can look back on five years later and say, “Damn! That was the moment shit changed.” This can be good or bad. Are you thinking, hell yeah? I have a few of those too! Given that hindsight is 20/20, what was my pivotal point that led to a book? Well, it’s more than one. Bear with me as I take you on a little journey.

Back in 2012, I experienced probably the worst breakup of my life. It just about devastated me. It affected my job, I lost friends, my relationship, and at the same time, my two best friends moved away.

“If there is a rock bottom for relationships I nailed it that year.”


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A few months after , I met someone, and he was absolutely wonderful…in the beginning. It was a refreshing change of pace after the previous six years. Until one day, it wasn’t. Obviously, it was too soon. By February 2013, I was left devastated again. It took months to recover, but I never felt completely healed.

Those were the dark days. On the outside, I looked fine. On the inside another story hid. Oh, how we women truly hide real pain. Down there where you stuff the self-doubt, feelings that you’re not enough, and a number of other things we wouldn’t say about our best friend but somehow think it’s ok to say about ourselves.

It was November 2013 when I decided to finally do something about my life. I was watching a TedTalk by Ian Usher, a guy who sold his life on eBay for a new one. He talked about how we are preconditioned to follow what society believes – grow up, get a good education, go to college, get a career, meet someone, get married, have kids, raise them, work hard, save your money, retire, then live out your last days doing what you missed out on while you were doing all that other stuff. So, he decided to sell his life for a new one on eBay.

I watched him intently while yelling out at the screen…HELL YEAH!! I’m going to do that too! Then he talked about 100 goals in 100 weeks that he would do next. So, I too wrote out a 100 goals. And off I went to changing everything in my outside world.

I thought changing my world around me was exactly what I needed. A fresh start. A new life that I would create myself. That was the day Life Meant™ was born. On that day, I decided that I would create a new story.

“I was going to learn all I could about building the best life possible.”

At the time, I had no idea what that even meant. All I knew was I was going to start living the best life, the life I was meant to live. I no longer wanted a life based on what society, culture, and beliefs of family and friends expected. It was time to define that on my terms. So I sold my life for a new one.

I took a job teaching internationally in the Middle East. That was about as different as you can get. What I didn’t know at the time was the Universe had one last lesson in store for me.

No matter how much you change the world around you if you don’t do the inner deep work then you are destined to repeat past patterns.

It sent me this lesson in the form of one last relationship.
This relationship taught me the greatest lesson of my life.
It was the inspiration for my first book.

Letters to a J.E.R.K.

The No-Bullsh*t Guide to Relationships and Living a Life Meant TM

The title started out as a joke. After the relationship ended, there were still emails being shared. (Not what one should do after a breakup, just saying.) In the emails, I would write about a topic. He joked that I should write a book and call it “A Letter to a Jerk”.

I spent the next year not only thinking about this book but asking the question, “Why is it that
I keep attracting jerks?” This led me to take an even deeper dive to into self-development.
So what did I find out?

I was the J.E.R.K. or

J.ust E.xperiencing R.epeated K.arma

When we look back at the patterns in our lives, we must face our own truth. It is in looking back at the past patterns of our relationships that we find the common threads that may need healing.

“The hardest thing to do is face your actual reflection. No one wants to open the internal closet of the self, push aside the skeletons, and dig out the emotional suitcases that come with each relationship.”

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In Letters to a J.E.R.K. – The No-Bulls*t Guide to Relationships and Living a Life Meant™,
you will discover how to heal the past and design your best life. So often, many of us have suppressed emotions of painful events in our lives. Without realizing it, these emotions can present or manifest themselves in many different ways as we move forward in life.
After identifying your patterns of the past, I will teach you how to let them go. Then you will learn how to custom design your best life or an even better one than you have now. Basically, how to live a Life Meant™.

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